Thank you to everyone who offered opinions, suggestions, connections & endorsements related to Montessori education. I completely appreciate the support!

And, in this particular case, I’m already completely convinced. I’m actually a product of early-childhood Montessori education myself. :) And not to toot my own horn too much, I think I got alot out of it, some of which really seems related to that kind of early education.

For example:

  • I’m really good with physical spatial relationships. Packing, arranging the furniture, loading the dishwasher — those practical "how will these things best fit together" skills. Montessori education has a ton of toys and activities that help kids learn to think like that.
  • I’ve been independent and adventurous for as long as I can remember. Including me, at least four of the kids I was at Highland with have lived abroad, going alone, not as part of any kind of group. Two of them did it for a decade or more.
  • Digging into some idea or topic intellectually interesting is fun for me, it doesn’t occur like "work." When I get to do it at work, it’s my favorite part of the job.

Who’s to say I wouldn’t have had exactly the same skills if my early childhood education had been different? Obviously, that’s impossible to know. But it aligns with the focus and values that are core to my understanding of Montessori education.

And I want those things for little Smudge.

 

We interviewed another child care possibility today. They’re a montessori school, they take infants as young as 6 weeks, and they’re 5 minutes from our house.

We liked them a lot. And they don’t have 47 people ahead of us on their waiting list. They actually don’t appear to keep a waiting list, per se.

The thing that makes them challenging for our planning purposes is that they only move kids from infant to toddler classes when they reach particular developmental milestones, and predicting when that will happen is an inexact science. The school estimates that it will happen when a baby is between 14-18 months old. And then, of course, they have to have room in the toddler class.

Parents have to re-up for the next school year in January, so at the very least, the school will have a better idea of June availablity before Smudge is born. Which is better than no timeline, but still stressful.

But wow, those kids were amazing.

Everyone looked purposeful and into whatever it was they were doing. In the infant room, that involved things like rolling over, looking in the mirror, and playing with your own toes.

The girl who was looking in the mirror was so much fun to watch. She’d lay on her side for a minute or so, staring intently at her reflection. Then when the effort became too much, she’d flop back onto her back and rest, one arm flung above her head. After maybe 2 minutes of rest, she’d roll back towards the mirror and look delighted to discover that her friend was still there.

But the older kids (3-6) looked that way too. Some kids were cleaning up, others were playing with blocks in graduated sizes, two little girls appeared to be comparing the size of their feet, and a little boy was carrying a tray of pencils from point A to point B. He looked incredibly urgent as he did it.

The cost is going to be a big bite into our income, but I think we can make it work. Hopefully Jill’s job will keep thinking that she’s a rock star, and I’ll get a nice raise at review time too.

And hopefully one of the little ones we saw today will hit all those nice developmental milestones right on our timeline — say the week that little bean is born and the time is right for me to go back to work.

 

The federal Department of Homeland Security agrees with the DeKalb County department’s landing page, not their page explaining the threat level system: We are currently at Code Yellow, not Code Orange.

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And if the Atlanta vegan community is planning a big protest to go along with all their new publicity, quite a number of us are interested in joining you. We aren’t vegans — and some of the folks I’ve talked to are even big fans of HoneyBaked Ham — but we’re 100% behind your right to protest, and we’re willing and interested in being out there with you.

The right to peacefully assemble and the right to free speech are really important to us.

 

Most of the time, living in intown Atlanta (ITP, or "inside the perimeter" as we locals say) feels like living in any other major metropolitian area. Maybe even a little more progressive than most.

We were surprised by that, and when people ask us how we like Atlanta (usually in that soft "concerned" voice), and we tell them that, they sound surprised and skeptical. I tell them my theory: most of the progressives from the whole South move to Atlanta.

They laugh and think that makes sense. I think it makes sense too, but the truth is, I haven’t got an iota of evidence for this theory. At least 80% of the people I’ve met are from elsewhere, outside of the south.

But there has been an item in the news lately that brings back all my "those crazy southerners" stereotypes.

Apparently, back in December 2003, some vegans staged a protest at a Honeybaked Ham store on Buford Highway here in DeKalb County, where I live.

The vegans’ protest included exciting activities like holding posters about the treatment of pigs, about ham, and promoting veganism. They were apparently also
distributing leaflets.

For those of you keeping score at home, DeKalb County is the most Democratic county in Georgia. Buford Highway is an artery through the northeastern part of the Atlanta metro area, and home to many immigrant businesses. It is not an expensive part of town, and I can’t imagine that there are any high-security government or military-industrial complex offices located there.

Two of the protesters noticed that they were being photographed by a man in an unmarked car. They wrote down the license plate number and other identifying details of the car.

When they left, the unmarked car with the photographer driving followed the vegans who had written down his license plate number. They pulled their car into a parking lot, and he followed them, this time, leaving his car and demanding the piece of paper on which they had written his identifying information.

When the vegan with the paper refused to hand it over, she and her companion were handcuffed and searched. Her request to be searched by a female officer was refused. Both of the protesters were arrested and charged with disorderly conduct. The paper, and the woman’s housekeys, were confiscated. Happily, the ACLU is helping the vegans sue for false imprisonment, false arrest, and harassment.

It turns out that the person who took the photos and ultimately arrested the vegans was Detective D.A. Gorman of the DeKalb County Homeland Security Department. (A part of the county police department.)

Blink.

What?

What on earth does the HOMELAND SECURITY department have to do with a dozen earnest vegans trying to talk people out of buying ham for Christmas?

According to the Dekalb Homeland Security web site, we locals are an important resource for recognizing suspicious & potentially terroristic activity: Law Enforcement has always relied upon the common-sense perceptions of DeKalb
citizens
who notice something or someone that appears suspicious or out of
place. (Emphasis mine.) Apparently only citizens are supposed to use common sense. Officers are supposed to throw that out the window?

Although the page says that they are concerned about both domestic and international terrorism, I wasn’t able to find anything suggesting that threats like the peaceful and lawful activities of a dozen pro-vegetable protesters fall within the scope of their authority.

But I did find two different claims about our current terrorism threat level. The department says we’re currently at Code Orange on one page, but on the landing page for the department, it indicates that we’re at Code Yellow.

Even right wing former Congressman Bob Barr took DeKalb County to task for going after the vegans. Actually, his commentary on the subject is so funny that I have to quote it in its entirety:

As reflected in a lawsuit filed recently in the U.S. District Court in
Atlanta, the residents of DeKalb County can rest easy at night, knowing
that its Homeland Security Division has collared the most nefarious and
dangerous terrorist organization in the world today — vegans. While
many people may not know what a vegan is — other than knowing that
former Democrat presidential candidate Dennis Kucinich is one — thank
goodness DeKalb has them in its sights.

Vegans, who are sort of extreme vegetarians (declining to eat not only
meats but any product that even comes from a meat-bearing animal),
apparently have been identified as Public Enemy No. 1 and placed under
surveillance by the county. Two vegans, protesting peacefully outside a
HoneyBaked Ham store in 2003, were subject to undercover surveillance
and arrested after they noticed the not-so-undercover surveillance
effort. The recently filed federal lawsuit may reveal the deep, dark
secrets of the vegans that have moved them to the top of DeKalb
County’s Homeland Security Division’s priority list.

Personally, I hope the vegan community will organize another, bigger protest this year. And friends, if you want to come join them, we have a guest room and I promise to stock up on the soy milk. It turns out we even know where to get the best vegan chocolate cake ever. ;-)

 

Now that my 4th weekend of class is over, I have new homework to do before the 5th weekend, which is in mid-November.

First, I have to make another series of collages. This time the topics are the 7 stages involved in giving a future to something. Most companies, for example, never progress beyond the 4th stage. The stages are:

  1. Listen/Express: Basically, coming up with new ideas or possibilities in conversations with people. We move into the next stage after group of people have one of those "Yeah!" moments around a specific idea.
  2. Remember/Forget: We forget most of our great ideas, and we get frustrated and annoyed with ourselves and each other when we later remember. We move out of this stage when we have a structure that works for dealing with remembering the things that are important to us.
  3. Strengthen & Build/Fail: Lots of drama in this stage. We get SO excited and then SO disappointed, and we often feel that the results we produce took more effort than they were worth. To move out of this stage, requires understanding how much we can learn and grow from the failures, and building support — both from people, and tangible evidence of the support.
  4. Predict & Tune: This is the stage where you actually, reliably, produce results. And by tweaking what you’re doing, you can manage those results. The risk in this stage is getting complacent and not trying anything new.
  5. Enhance: In this stage, the results are steady and growing, and we can and do take the opportunity to explore and play with new ways of doing things. The results of our experiments are so successful that they overwhelm the management structures we have in place, and can even destroy them.
  6. Distinguish/Understand & Explain: At this stage, people are dying to know how we managed to create what you created. Normally, we try to answer, but our answers may be inconsistent or contradictory. In order to move past this stage, we have to understand and accept that we actually can’t explain our success.
  7. Enroll/Lose: Almost no one ever reaches this stage. What distinguishes it is that we get that anyone could have done what we did, and we want to give them the opportunity. Our idea becomes all about humanity.

Second, I have to move my "initiative" to the next stage.

In an earlier weekend, we created "initiatives" in which we are taking some way of being that we are, and bringing it forth in the world. It isn’t a project or a thing to do, exactly, but there will be things to do that are necessary to get the way of being out in the world beyond us. (This is where it gets tricky.)

My initiative is in the area of leadership, or of helping people to be leaders. I’m calling the initiative "The Passionate Connection" because the intent is that people take on being leaders in an area or areas of life about which they are passionate.

I’m not sure if mine is at the first stage or the second stage. Probably the first stage.

Third, I need to continue my journal of daily observations and outcomes. That’s you! And I’m proud to say that I got an "A" on my journal last weekend.

Fourth, I need to go to my weekly homework parties and keep up my paperwork.

AND

Fifth, I need to invite the people I have regular communication — daily or weekly — to be acknowledged and appreciated at the next course weekend’s Community Event.

In Atlanta, that’s Saturday night, December 10; in Washington DC, that’s Saturday night, November 12. I’ll be doing the course in DC, but I should be back from my work trip in time to go to the Community Event in Atlanta too.

 

This wasn’t the focus of my class last weekend, but it came up out of one of the earlier classes and I’ve been thinking about it recently.

In class, we distinguished several different types of communication, including one we call a "structural conversation." By that, we mean the ways that objects — including human beings — relate to other objects. (Yesterday we watched Inside the Actor’s Studio with Jodie Foster as the guest, and she talked about how a particular gesture she found in the character Nell automatically makes her cry — that’s an example of a structural conversation.)

For the last few days, I’ve been really present to being pregnant as a structural conversation.

For most of my life, let’s say since around age 4 or 5, I haven’t paid much attention to my body. It mostly did what I wanted it to, when I wanted it to — if I drop a pen, I pick it up without thinking. As I get ready to fall asleep, I roll over from my left side to my right, and then back again, also without thinking.

It doesn’t work that way any more.

When I drop a pen, and move to lean over and pick it up, it gets uncomfortable way before I can actually reach the pen.

Instead, I have to orient myself so that I’m directly facing the thing I want to pick up, and then either squat down to pick it up, or move my feet apart so I can lean forward and not squish Smudge against my thighs. And when I lean, I need to bend from my hips instead of at the waist.

One of Jill’s nicknames for me is Captain Oblivion, and it stems in part from my inattentiveness to the physical world. As I walk around life, I bump into doorways, corners of furniture, and stub my toes on things. Frequently.

This has also changed since Smudge’s presence became obvious.

I’m paying more attention, but it isn’t working. My body isn’t the size I think it is. There’s not a Liza-sized space between the kitchen table and the half-wall; there’s an unpregnant Liza-sized space there. Roughly.

Or put another way, I’m paying more attention to the objects around me, but not to my own body.

It’ll be interesting to see how this evolves as I get bigger.

 

I’ve just added my dear friend Somewhere Bean to the blogroll, now that I know she blogs. You may recognize her as Reno Rhetorician from the comments.

But what really brought me joy is that I think she’s the perfect transition in the list — which I can’t seem to organize any way other than alphabetically — between Sean and Susan Crawford. It always did seem strange, but very me, to have my old friend the Vegas lighting guy next to the hardcore communications/technology legal academic I know slightly. But Somewhere Bean, my old friend the quirky environmental rhetoric academic & former techie — who happens also to live in Nevada — seems like the perfect transition on the list.

And in case you’re curious, the list started out as a list of my friends, especially friends from high school but also more recent friends, who blog. But as I began to find other interesting blogs online, I added them. I can’t quite bring myself to take links down, even when the authors seem mostly to be done with blogging.

(That currently includes the work-sponsored one; I’ve been told I can continue posting to it if I want to, but we are transitioning to a new approach to the professional blogosphere sometime in the near or nearish future. When I learned about the new approach, my commitment to  the existing one flagged.)

At this point, I actually know, in real life, the authors of 18 of the 30 blogs. I think I’m going to become more serious about taking down blogs that don’t get updated, at least for people I don’t know in real life. I just can’t bring myself to "de-link" my friends.

The majority of the others I found looking for blogs of other pregnant lesbians, lesbians trying to concieve, or new lesbian moms. The librarian theme is partly random, partly because I know a lot of librarians, and partly because I’m interested in a lot of the same issues as many tech-savvy librarians, and a lot of them write well. And a handful I found while surfing at random, but they write well and have something interesting to say.

More about my weekend in class later. It was very interesting, and I think it will generate a lot of blogging as well as real-world conversations between now and the next full weekend of class.

PS I don’t think I’ll be blogging about the amusing search terms that get people here in the future. After the last time, I got a spike in hits from people looking for (frankly, creepy) p0rn. There’s probably no getting around that if I keep using the word lesbian, but I’m going to try to keep other high-pr0n-probability terms (like the correct spelling of that one) to a minimum. No more reviewing Hollis Gillespie books. ;-)

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