Thu 23 Feb 2006
Send Lawyers, Guns & Money?
Posted by Liza under The Real Live Boy
OK, I don’t mean the part about the guns.
I shouldn’t be nervous, but I am — excruciatingly! This afternoon, we go to meet with the lawyer handling our second-parent adoption. Today is when we turn in all of our paperwork to make Jill legally The King’s parent.
Later The Same Day
OK, we’re now back from the lawyer’s office. She’s going to file Jill’s petition tomorrow, and within a week, we should at least know which judge we are assigned, and in all probabilty, have a hearing date scheduled.
There’s a small chance we’ll get the judge who won’t do second-parent same sex adoptions, but most likely, all will go smoothly from here. Or so we hope!!! It’s still nerve-wrecking nerve-wracking.
(Grammariphiles — is it nerve-wrecking or nerve-racking? Update: see comments.)
And the good thing is that even though doing this is expensive, it’s totally worth it, and Jill will get the full amount back on her taxes next year.
Fruit & Veg Count, 2/21-23: Not much. My tummy has been hypersensitive. Today is all about rice, tea, maybe some apple, and some gatorade. And it’s been that way for about 2 days. 
February 23rd, 2006 at 6:18 pm
it’s nerve wracking, dear. I’m pretty sure. But I may have the spelling wrong.
Definitions of racking:
1.To cause great physical or mental suffering to: Pain racked his entire body. See Synonyms at afflict.
2.To torture by means of the rack.
Oh good luck!!!
February 23rd, 2006 at 7:30 pm
Trista spelled it right, but it does deserve a hyphen. “Nerve-wracking” And I am not sure if it derives from rack or not. Trista, look it up in your OCD (hee hee - I think that’s a better name for it!).
Regardless, it is a nerve-wracking process, but I have all limbs & digits crossed for you. What’s the approximate wait for the court date? It sounds like you don’t have the 6 mo. waiting period we have here in DC.
February 23rd, 2006 at 7:43 pm
Thank you, thank you!
Fortunately, we don’t have the DC statutory 6-month waiting period.
“How long” depends significantly on the judge we get, but for most of the ones in our county, it should be 4-6 weeks. A few take longer. One refuses to do them altogether.
February 23rd, 2006 at 10:03 pm
Not to invite trouble, but what if you get the one who doesn’t do them? Are you just screwed? That’s a terrifying prospect.
February 24th, 2006 at 10:25 am
If we get the bad judge, we have difficult decisions to make and it gets a lot more expensive.
All of the options get into something of a “legal ethics” grey area that I’m trying not to think about.
February 24th, 2006 at 1:24 pm
Yuck. Let us stop thinking of it immediately, then.
(If you want to delete this and the preceding comments so as to facilitate not thinking about it, please do.)
February 25th, 2006 at 3:32 pm
I’ll be hoping that you get a favorable judge and all goes well!