Thu 9 Mar 2006
Horrible News
Posted by Liza under The Real Live Boy
[16] Comments
Jill’s petition to adopt The King got assigned to the 1 judge — of the 10 in our county — who absolutely will not grant same-sex second parent adoptions.
We are a sad, angry, disappointed mess right now.
Tomorrow, we talk again to the lawyer and come up with Plan B. I have no idea what it is right now. Apparently you can’t just petition for a different judge here.
Part of me wants to jump up and down and swear. The other part wants to curl up in bed and hide my head under the pillow to cry.
March 9th, 2006 at 8:05 pm
I’m so very sorry.
Take care and know that others are sending good thoughts to you and your loved ones.
March 9th, 2006 at 8:36 pm
Good Lord! Can you withdraw the petition give it a couple weeks and re-petition?
Oh, I am so sorry. I really hope your lawyer comes up with a brilliant plan.
March 9th, 2006 at 9:40 pm
Oh, God, I am so sorry. I feel like I jinxed you. How really, really hideous. I’ll keep my fingers crossed that there’s a relatively easy solution.
March 9th, 2006 at 10:23 pm
I am so heartbroken that some narrow-minded person could have such an intimate and direct way of hurting my family.
Jason and I are sending you our love and prayers.
March 10th, 2006 at 12:00 am
So sorry.
So angry.
If something, um, bad happens to the judge, they have to give you a different one, right? Not that I would ever advocate violence towards another human being, but then, sometimes I doubt that people like that are human beings.
Thinking of you and hoping for the best…
March 10th, 2006 at 3:32 am
i’m sorry. that judge is a disgrace to the court and to the law. as a lawyer i am ashamed to count him or her among my peers.
but i have faith and hope that you will work this out. maybe that’s naive of me, but i do.
love to you all.
March 10th, 2006 at 10:32 am
Liza and Jill, I am so, so sorry. It breaks my heart that some people are discriminated against in this way, and that it’s not only legal but condoned by some groups.
I hope your lawyer is able to do something else. You are a FAMILY, dammit, and should be recognized as such.
March 10th, 2006 at 10:43 am
I’m sorry Liza. My thoughts are with you, am I’m sending as much “Queer Power” waves as I can.
March 10th, 2006 at 10:59 am
That is awful. I am so, so sorry. Sending hopeful thoughts your way, and using my voodoo doll on that judge. Unconscionable.
March 10th, 2006 at 12:02 pm
Oh no!!!! We are both crushed. I’m ashamed to live in a country where this kind of thing can happen. Let’s hope you’ve got a really smart lawyer. Please.
Much love to you all,
Sandra and Bruce
March 10th, 2006 at 1:05 pm
Wow! Looks like it’s time to move to Canada…
March 10th, 2006 at 1:33 pm
Oh man, that sucks. Here’s hoping that something good happens to allow the adoption!
March 10th, 2006 at 2:40 pm
This is really an ugly situation but I am sure, sure, sure that the three of you will find a way. It seems you always have.
My thoughts are with you both and the King.
-JT (a loyal lurker)
March 10th, 2006 at 9:06 pm
All the trees in Georgia lean toward that judge’s house because he sucks so much.
I love all three of you, even the two I haven’t met, and am sending you lots of loving thoughts.
To the judge, I’m sending a benign tumor that will do him no harm except completely incapacitating his vocal cords.
March 13th, 2006 at 7:05 pm
I’m weighing in late but haven’t checked your blog in a while and had to comment. I can’t believe this is happening in 2006! Way back about 1990 in California, I volunteered at the Alliance for Childrens Rights and they handled a similar case with two men. One was a stay at home dad and he was not allowed to adopt, in part because he had no income but it came down to discrimination. The case had a good outcome and both men became legal dads so I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you two, too. Ugh, when you think about it Brad Pitt can adopt Angelina Jolie’s adopted children and that’s not a problem but this is?!?!?! Could you possibly do the adoption in a different state?
March 13th, 2006 at 8:11 pm
Jean, you’re a great commenter! I thought so on Jen’s blog and I think so here too. Keep coming back!
Most states have residency requirements before you can do things like get married or divorced, or adopt children. That said, nothing is “off the table” right now. We are looking at every non-ridiculous option. And the definition of non-ridiculous is pretty broad. We don’t know what we’re going to do yet.