Wed 28 Jun 2006
No Givebacks
Posted by Liza under Personal, The Real Live Boy
It’s official! Noah now has 2 legal mommies! Jill is his parent under law, now and forever, amen.
I’ll post pictures tonight from home.
Once things got started, the adoption moved forward smoothly and uneventfully. But they did get started slowly.
First, I did the math of how long we still had before we needed to leave the house totally wrong. So we were scrambling at the end. Then it turned out Jill mapquested directions to the wrong address, and when she remapquested, the directions were totally different, even though it was just a different entry to the same whole-block-large building.
When we arrived, the judge had forgotten that we were scheduled for 9 am, not 9:30 when she usually begins her day. And the clerk’s office hadn’t delivered our casefiles yesterday, so she read every single solitary piece of paper in our files while we all sat around her conference table and Noah banged on the table with his teething ring toy.
But eventually everyone was ready, Noah was still being very good and charming, our wonderful attorney Melissa asked us a few questions under oath, and within 10 minutes, we had a court order that declared Jill to be Noah’s legal second parent.
In 6-8 weeks, the post office will deliver us a new birth certificate that lists me as "mother" and Jill as "parent."
And we are DELIGHTED parents.
Thanks, everyone, for all of your love and support and comments and emails and calls and love and support and love and support and love and support through all of this crazy-making journey.





June 28th, 2006 at 1:45 pm
YAY YAY YAY YAY YAY!!!!! Crying over here. Seriously. Big tears in my eyes.
June 28th, 2006 at 2:24 pm
Yay!!!!!!!
Congratulations!
June 28th, 2006 at 2:26 pm
Seriously I’m crying at my desk. This has just totally made my day. I (we.. see comment above) are absolutely thrilled for you all. Noah is the luckiest to have 2 amazing mommies!
June 28th, 2006 at 2:26 pm
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!
June 28th, 2006 at 2:59 pm
Wonderful news! Congratulations!
June 28th, 2006 at 3:32 pm
What great news. I have admired you both in the way you have handled all this. Your love for your boy is very apparent. My ire at the ridiculosity (?!?)of this whole situation is still high, and I plan on being very vocal about the rights of families– ALL families– during our next election cycle.
June 28th, 2006 at 3:36 pm
Yeah congratulations you guys. You are lucky to be able to do that where you live.
June 28th, 2006 at 4:42 pm
YIPEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!
June 28th, 2006 at 4:48 pm
Hoorah, hoorah!! What fantabulous news - many, many congrats on having a legal family!
June 28th, 2006 at 6:12 pm
hooray!!! add me to the crying contingent. so happy for you guys!
June 28th, 2006 at 7:09 pm
Is it really, really weird that I am crying tears of joy for someone I know only online?
OK, so then I’m weird.
I am just so very happy for all three of you. YESSSSSS!!!!!
And of course I have to add that it is ridiculous that you have to go through all these hoops to be a ‘legal’ family. You were a family already and should be recognized as such.
June 28th, 2006 at 7:12 pm
Well, I didn’t cry… but that doesn’t mean I’m not thrilled!
counting down 1 1/2 days ’til I see my favorite nephew!
XOXOXO
June 28th, 2006 at 8:34 pm
I’m delighted too, of course.
Did the celebratory gift arrive in time?
June 28th, 2006 at 8:48 pm
Congratulations Mommies!!!!
June 28th, 2006 at 9:13 pm
Thank you all SO MUCH!
I was so caught up in the doing of everything that needed to be done today, that it didn’t really hit me until I blogged about it.
And then when I started reading all of your sweet, wonderful comments, I got moved over and over again.
Thank you all so much.
(Sadly, Reno, no.)
June 28th, 2006 at 10:06 pm
oh my god, CONGRATULATIONS!!! i’m tearing up too. yipee yipee yipee! thank god that the legal system actually works sometimes.
i’m so happy for you all. you and jill are and will be the bestest mommies a child could have.
June 28th, 2006 at 11:58 pm
Well, so it’s later than expected. No big deal — just expect a “Congraulations!” package at work any day now.
I am so happy for you. I just shared the news with Bruce, and he’s happy for you too. I feel a certain connection between him and Noah because on my first trip down to stay with him for a weekend I walked in the door, kissed him hello, and said “I have to use the phone to find out Liza and Jill’s baby’s name — he was just born.” Then I called Rory. Bruce was the first person I told Noah’s name to, and I always share Noah’s life updates, and it just feel special to me that Bruce and I have been sharing Noah’s news since the very first day.
That was a roundabout way of saying I love you, and we both feel connected to and delighted for you all.
I am especially happy for Jill. Noah is too young to know what this means, and your legal standing was never in question. For Jill, then, this is an especially wonderful and significant day — the boy who was already her son is now legally her son as well.
Okay, now *I’m* getting teary-eyed.
I love love love the family you three have made.
June 29th, 2006 at 1:50 am
Whooooo! Congratulations, Noah & mommies.
June 29th, 2006 at 12:13 pm
Yippee!!!!!!!
June 29th, 2006 at 7:21 pm
Yay, glad it worked out! Congratulations to your whole (legal!!!) family!
June 30th, 2006 at 2:46 pm
Just jumped over from City Lizzy and wanted to say congratulations to the three of you!