Sun 15 Oct 2006
Home Again, Home Again, Jiggity Jig
Posted by Liza under Personal
It is so nice to be home again. I really can’t even express it.
I had a great time sleeping through the night and confering with learned colleagues in the perfect weather of Palm Springs, but nothing beats coming home.
All my pumped milk made it back ok. Because I am naive and inexperienced, I failed to think through the logical consequences of “newspaper insulates really well” and wrapped most of it in newspaper before asking the hotel to freeze it, which meant that only the milk that was in the hotel freezer for 2 days was actually frozen, but all of it stayed frozen all the way home. (One bag was kind of slushie, but I count it as frozen.)
The rest was cold all the way back, and is now frozen.
Noah had enough to drink, with 1 bottle and 3 bags left over, for a total of roughly 15 oz.
After I unpacked it at home, and repacked it for the freezer here, I went to his school and hung out for about 2 hours. Noah was a little uncertain when I first got there, but then I nursed him to sleep, and when he woke up, he was superhappy and excited to see me. Yes, I sat there and held him in my arms for 45 minutes while he napped. I couldn’t stand the idea of leaving him again.
I also learned that I am raising a kisser.
Noah kissed me, 1 teacher, and 2 other babies while I was there. His kisses are wide open and wet, and now that he has TWO teeth — yes, he sprouted a second one while I was gone — they are a little toothy. We may have to work on learning to kiss with the mouth shut. (Which is, in fact, the only way we ever kiss him. But since he can’t see our mouths when we’re kissing his cheeks, this may be unclear.)
The baby that they are no longer calling his girlfriend because we finally asked that they work on modeling male and female friendships instead of romanticizing children’s relationships, is obviously and truly Noah’s best friend.
He’d been kissing a baby who can’t move herself, when he heard Baby K start babbling. BAM! He was off like a shot, leaving the helpless baby to entertain herself, while he crawled excitedly towards Baby K. The two of them sat there grinning and babbling and poking each other in the face and pulling each other’s hair, and Noah could hardly decide whether to look at her or at me.
Unfortunately, the teachers think K is teaching Noah how to pull hair. She has naturally punk rock hair that absolutely begs to be touched — imagine if David Bowie’s hair grew that way naturally, with no product. So everyone touches K’s hair, and as a result, she thinks the normal way to greet people is to pull their hair. Just like Noah thinks it is to kiss them and stick your fingers in their mouth.
Nap over! Here’s another picture, with BOTH TEETH.







October 16th, 2006 at 1:42 am
Look at the big boy! And aw man, those open-mouthed sloppy baby kisses are just the best.
Welcome home.
October 16th, 2006 at 10:05 am
i’m glad it all worked out well! welcome back!
October 16th, 2006 at 10:30 am
welcome home–hurray that it all worked out well.
love the sloppy kisses!
henry likes to eat his friends–heads, hands, legs, whatever. he truly does experience his world through his mouth…
also? I love that you ASKED the school to model age appropriate male-female relationships for Noah. I’m not sure if that’s great that you asked or not so great that you had to ask…but either way…
October 16th, 2006 at 2:59 pm
Thanks, everybody!
The asking on the relationship-modeling was HARD, and I’m really proud of what we did.
See, they KEPT GOING ON AND ON about Noah’s “girlfriend.” Jokes were made about them under the bleachers. And that was when I realized that NO SHIT, I could not continue pretending that this didn’t make me uncomfortable.
And at the same time, I didn’t want to blow it out of proportion, or to make it be a “because Noah has 2 moms” thing.
There was both a ‘look at that, he’s being socialized to be straight, and he’s only 8 months old’ aspect to the story, AND ALSO a ‘male and female people can only relate to one another in a romantic/sexualized dynamic’ socialization that was being implicitly taught. I don’t think either of those things were what the school or the parents intended to teach.
So we wrote a very nice email about how Montessori is all about modeling behavior and could we maybe focus on modeling friendship behavior in this context, trying to be concious of how easy it is to fall into teaching children stereotypes? And we asked that, if possible, the discussion not just be about Noah and Baby K, and added that of course we want Noah and K to still get to play together as much as they want.
And it worked. Yay! Yay!
October 16th, 2006 at 10:34 pm
Welcome home! Nice toofers on that kid!
Any kisses that included food yet? Claire still tells the story of my older brother and her first cheerio kiss.
October 17th, 2006 at 7:04 am
Ah, Reno, you give me something to look forward to!
October 17th, 2006 at 9:42 am
i think it’s great that you asked them to model friendship behavior and avoid stereotypes. i would have given the teacher the whatfor the first time she said something like that in my presence (i’m debbie downer!), but then again i don’t feel pressure to be a shining example of 2-momitude like i’m sure you do.
October 18th, 2006 at 5:57 am
I agree - go you on the modeling male-female relationships!! But can I tell you how crazy-making it is to be hanging out with a bunch of lesbians WHO DO THAT? Practically every time we’re with a bunch of moms and a girl baby and a boy baby are playing together, someone will say something about boyfriend or girlfriend. And I’m like… hello, people, why project ANY orientation onto your kid? Didn’t you learn from your own experience?!? Let them be who they are!!
October 18th, 2006 at 9:41 am
OMG, Jen, that’s bizarre!
Part of what steeled my resolve to say something was mentioning the bf/gf thing to moms in the 2 other lesbian families at Noah’s school. The shocked & disappointed expressions on their faces made me sure I wasn’t blowing things out of proportion.
(Yeah, I needed some RL external validation on this one. I can’t explain it. It has something to do with not wanting to be the lesbian mom who never f*cking shuts up about it.)
I must be tired. I keep swearing in my comments, both on my blog and on others.
October 19th, 2006 at 1:15 am
Hey, Liza! Glad you and your milk made it home safe and sound! An aside about extended nursing here- I joined a two-year-old parenting class here and THREE of the mothers have stated they are still breastfeeding, two of them nursing during the class. And their kids are older than Mini. Huh. I still want to wean, but Mini’s not ready.
I’m glad you and Noah were able to re-bond in the nursing routine fairly easily.
We miss you three! The kids still look at the Foot Book and say, “Noah.” or pick-up your keys (I packed them to send to y’all and haven’t had time) and say, “Noah, Noah, Noah, Noah” ad nauseum (sp??). Or look at any baby without hair and state “Noah” as well. They miss him.
October 19th, 2006 at 7:12 am
Awwwwwwww.
We miss them, and you & J, too. Every time I look at our bottle stash (which hasn’t been moved yet) I picture Noah imitating Jr & Mini and sending them bouncing over the entire kitchen.
Lucky for us, he’s more interested in the shiny silver drawer pulls.