Tue 18 Dec 2007
The Pressure is On
Posted by Liza under TTC
Ok, I’m sitting here finishing up my sandwich, and it HIT me.
If I don’t get pregnant this try, this one, the one today, the one in about 2 hours, we will be down to our LAST vial of The Frozen Chosen, aka, our donor. No more is available. We are 9th on the waiting list if it magically appears. The other people on the DSR who used him also want more.
And then we will have to make some big decisions. Try one last time with IUI & meds? Try IVF using all disposable income for 2008? Keep going after either of those options with a new donor & paying for everything out of pocket? (That last is only realistic if we use our last vial on our last insurance-covered IUI; the IVF is out of pocket and will empty the pockets.)
On Sunday morning, there were 2 follicles, a 21mm and a 17mm. 20-24 is considered mature, and they grow at 1-2mm/day. Yesterday we triggered their release, which takes 36-50 hours, so we should have 2 mature eggs doing their thing sometime between tonight and tomorrow morning, with swimmers there to greet them.
Please. Let this be the cycle where I get pregnant again. Where Noah gets to become a big brother.
I know we aren’t technically down to the wire, but I see the wire and it is much too close for comfort.





December 18th, 2007 at 12:50 pm
I’m sending just as much energy to you getting pregnant this cycle as I am to me.
Please please please let you get pregnant this cycle.
December 18th, 2007 at 2:29 pm
Keeping fingers and toes crossed for you!
December 18th, 2007 at 4:33 pm
Time to find a sitter, you and Jill go out somewhere fun for a nice grown up evening, and do NOT make yourselves nuts with worry and what-ifs. Whatever that mysterious stress hormone is, you do not need more of it. Maybe some more toddler led bouncing, or something else that makes you laugh like maniacs, will do the stress relieving trick.
Love and good wishes
Mom
December 18th, 2007 at 4:46 pm
honest (non-judgemental) question. my partner and i are going to begin our TTC journey next year, very soon. we have already thought about buying a lot of sperm so we could have ’siblings’ (if the first time even works and we’re ready for a second time - a lot of “if”s) … so i’m just wondering, since we are open to adoption should that prove to be the right path, and since my partner won’t be ‘related’ to any of our children biologically either way (she has zero interest in being pregnant and i have a lot of desire to be be pregnant), why is that we want our future/potential children to be ‘related’ to each other on both sides (i.e. from the same sperm). it’s my instinct, too, but i don’t know WHY. i mean being lesbian moms, we’re already conceding that biology isn’t everything, my partner will be a mom regardless. i thought maybe, since you’re poised on the verge of number two (and i am really pulling for this month for you!!!), you might have the answer. do you know why you (and i) would want your kids to have the same biological ‘father’ (noting that the term father is explosive/inappropriate)??? thanks!
December 18th, 2007 at 6:24 pm
Best of luck!!
December 18th, 2007 at 9:40 pm
I am so confident that this will be the one that I sent you a package in the mail yesterday with stuff for my future niece or nephew.
Maxim is sending lots of baby love your way Aunt Liza!
December 19th, 2007 at 9:16 am
too many jens! always too many jens!
good luck! i’m sure things will work out great for you, no matter how this cycle turns out. i know you know that just because things don’t necessarily turn out a specific way doesn’t mean they still won’t turn out perfectly.
December 19th, 2007 at 4:47 pm
OH my sweet friend! You know how many thoughts and prayers are with you. I’m with Jen though — whatever happens — well she said it better: “Just because things don’t necessarily turn out a specific way doesn’t mean they still won’t turn out perfectly.”
Much love….
December 19th, 2007 at 7:08 pm
Go swimmers go! Sending you so much love and wishes of success. And ditto to relaxation advice. Your Mommy is very smart.
December 19th, 2007 at 10:43 pm
Sending along all my good baby jou jou!
Love
Madelaine
December 20th, 2007 at 11:01 am
sooooooooooo effing hopeful for you, sweetie!
xo