Yesterday, I had my first appointment with the midwives who were my primary prenatal care with Noah, and who hung out and tried to get my labor going just before he came into the world.

Jill and I have been debating whether or not to change baby-delivery medical practices — I like them, and they’re convenient to my work, but the hospital where they deliver is not very convenient to home. I have another appointment, later this week, with an MD who practices at the hospital 5 minutes from our house.

But whether or not to change isn’t the topic of this post.

This post is about the VBAC, or “vaginal birth after c-section” talk that Perky Midwife and I had yesterday.

Basically, her opinion is that I’m not a very good candidate, for 2 reasons. First, and primarily, because of why I had the c/s — “failure to progress.”

In spite of all the assistance medical science could provide to my body, once my body decided that it was time to have that baby, my body didn’t figure out how to go into labor. It hung around ignoring all that cervadil and pitocin, leaking amniotic fluid and half-assedly trying the occasional contraction.

The other reason is the one people usually guess — the extra large baby I was growing in there. I can’t compare to friend Frema and her supersized 11 lb bundle of love, but Noah was a well above average 9 lbs, 7 oz. There’s no reason to think that little Blur won’t be in that same range.

This practice has 2 VBAC policies that Jill and I are supposed to think about. We have until ~30 weeks to decide. First, they won’t let me try for a VBAC past my due date — when I hit 40 weeks, they schedule a c/s. And second, they won’t do the drug cocktail to induce or try to get things moving that they did last time. I can only VBAC if I go into labor on my own.

If I choose to do a scheduled c/s instead, they normally schedule them a week to 10 days before my due date. Any of you who have lived through the last 3 weeks of a full term pregnancy can well imagine how fabulous it sounds to reduce that last gigantic and unwieldy phase, especially if it is at the end of a Georgia summer.

The other thing that I have to appreciate about Perky Midwife is this. According to her original calculations, Blur’s due date is September 11. Fortunately, all of the u/s (including the surprise one yesterday) show Blur measuring a few days ahead of that. So against her normal practice, Perky Midwife recorded my EDD as September 9.

 

Noah had a great time with Grandma visiting!

Laughing and Reading with Grandma

In addition to reading, we had a treat at the mall (where we could not find any shoes that fit Noah), got new hooded sweatshirts & mittens, got potty seats, went to 2 different pet stores and looked at mice and rabbits and fish, played countless hours of choo-choos, and laughed, read, and tickled.

Is it any wonder that Noah and I both feel like this?

Worn Out By Grandma

 

Pregnancy brain has clearly been affecting me. Apparently, my “graduation” ultrasound with the RE’s office was yesterday, but in my mind, it was today.

Fortunately, they could see me today, at my preferred office, with “my” doctor and my favorite nurse. Both of them gave me hugs after the u/s, and I was a little teary.
Apparently, I’m growing another big baby, or at least we caught the picture at the end of a growth spurt. Although I am “really” 7 weeks & 3 days pregnant, the little one measured 13.7 mm, or 7 weeks & 5 days, with a textbook heart rate of 148 bpm.

The still pictures make it look like an out of focus kidney bean — maybe we’ll call this one “Blur” to go with Noah’s pre-birth name “Smudge.” There were some less blurry glimpses during the u/s, where you really could tell that there is a human embryo in there.

The next u/s should be in about a month, with all the genetic screening tests. That was when we learned that Noah was going to be a boy, so hopefully Blur will be as cooperative as Smudge was.

I got some sad news this morning, too. Unfortunately, another one of my online pregnancy buddies miscarried yesterday. K & E, I am so sorry for your loss.

It’s also sad and awkward to know that of the 4 of us who found out we were pregnant in the span of less than a week, only 2 of us are still expecting. I wish beyond measure that all of us were getting the kind of good news that I got.

 

The clock reads 3:16 am. I’ve been awake, mind racing, for about an hour. Since I’m up, I might as well blog.

Later this morning, Jill leaves for Arizona for 12 days. She’s going to be working the SuperBowl.

The fact of her leaving for so long has made us both a little testy and stressed out over the last couple of days, which makes the situation all the harder.

Also, everyone in the house has a cold.

My mom is coming to visit and help out for the first few days — she arrives a few hours after Jill leaves, and will be here all weekend. I’m excited about that, and I think Noah will have a blast playing with Grandma.

Noah had a big week this week — he was promoted to the 2 year old room at school. We’re very happy about it, and he seems to be, too. Aside from some mild upset at the change in the dropoff routine on the first day, he has seemed much happier. Yesterday he ran over to the trucks, barely glancing up when I said goodbye.

Wednesday night at bedtime, he kept singing “muffin-man, muffin-man, muffin-man.” Since we have no recordings of that song, I can only assume that’s a new classroom activity.

The other excitement with Noah is the emergence of unambiguous sentences, like, “Noah put on Mommy’s shoes,” and “Noah tickle Mommy’s feet.”

Less thrilling experientially, although good news developmentally, is that we have firmly entered the “MINE” stage of toddlerhood. Toothbrush, book, blanket, fork, jacket, tv clicker, cups, car keys, and most entertainingly the gold brackets that secure the stair handrail to the wall, have all been declared “Noah’s XYZ” or “Mine. No, Mommy, mine!”

In absolute proof that Noah is Jill’s son, he also now pitches a fit in the morning because I won’t let him drive. (Not that Jill won’t let me drive — I refer to the passionate interest in the car. Whereas I view my car as a giant money-sucking purse that can also take me from point a to point b.)

Yesterday morning, he not only wanted to drive, he wanted to drive the “cool car! cool car!”

Last thing before I try to get back to sleep: We’re going to HAWAII in March!

I was invited to a very cool conference — the rescheduled version of the one that sent me to La Jolla while San Diego was on fire — for work, paid for by the folks who organize it.

That means that my trip and a few days of our hotel will be covered. We’re also just short of enough frequent flyer miles for a free plane ticket, but the cost of buying the extra miles will be less than $150. That leaves just one regular price ticket — not cheap, but very cheap for a trip to HAWAII.

And very conveniently, the deadline for confirming attendance and making travel arrangements with the conference organizers is the week after 2007 bonuses will be paid, making this all actually possible.

Anyone who wants to leave “what to do, especially with a toddler, in Hawaii” advice is welcome. Erin & Kevin have weighed in and promise further suggestions. The conference is at a resort on The Big Island, near Kona, but I assume that we’ll be doing our main flight there and back through Oahu. Realistically, I think that means those are the only two islands we’ll visit.

3:49 am. Still wide awake. I think I’m going to be napping later.

 

One of my birthday or Christmas presents from Jill was a “make & take” bookcase making class at the fancypants high end hardware store nearby.

Both of us were picturing a modest sized bookcase, maybe 3′ tall by 2′ wide. Truthfully, I was hoping for a lower and wider option that could be used for Noah.

Instead, every surface of my car had to be rapidly reconfigured in order to stuff the extremely heavy 5′x3′x1′ bookcase into it at the end of a very long day.

Don’t get me wrong! It was an interesting class. I learned a ton, the instructor “bookcase Bob” and his assistant George were lovely and helpful. I would totally take a class there again.

I’ll post pictures of the bookcase soon.

When I got home, Jill was watching the Barrett-Jackson classic car auction on the speed channel. I thought that it was an endless ridiculous auction that never ends, but in fact, when we’d been watching it during the last month, we were watching RE-RUNS. Yes. Re-runs of a car auction on television.

EDITED to clarify: When I got home, what was on was not a re-run. However, we have been watching it with regularity for about a month. The speed channel ran re-runs for weeks in the lead-up to the live auction. Also, Erin, if the car was blue and had an autographed dashboard, it was the same car. Frighteningly, the one I saw was only the 3rd most expensive in the auction, and the announcers debated whether or not it would still be in the top 10 by the end.
After watching a guy spend $600,000 for a sports car, I’d had enough. Jill observed that she has really learned a lot watching these auctions.

I agree. Here’s what I’ve learned:

  • There are people our age who can afford to spend over half a million dollars on a car they can’t possibly drive more than once per week.
  • The show’s producers are obnoxiously sexist.
  • If you are incredibly lucky, you will find a classic car in a barn and sell it for a ridiculous amount of money.
 

Back when I lived in DC, I made fun of how DC metro area residents lost their damn minds at even the threat of snow, to say nothing of actual falling flakes of snow.

I had no idea how well they coped.

Atlantans are even more paranoid and panicked by snow than Washingtonians.

It took me 20 minutes to go one mile from my office on my way home tonight. The snow wasn’t even sticking to the street yet, although it was starting to stick to the grass and trees. Lucky for me, things picked up some as I got further from the business area, so my normal 25-35 minute, city street commute only took about an hour.

As you can see, the flakes were the big wet fluffy looking kind, and Noah had a wonderful time. In fact, he played outside for close to an hour. This caused a fabulous alteration to our current dramatic bedtime routine — he fell asleep 6 or 7 minutes after we put him down.

Snow Mosaic

 

Um. Mostly Noah being back to 5 am, plus the whole exhausted first trimester thing, with a little going to the gym thrown in for good measure.

I *think* about blogging a lot, but I do get that you can’t tell that part.

Today is a big day! I move offices, and will be in a new space where I get no natural light (just like now) but am in a suite of space with 3 other members of my department. I think it will be more sociable.

Even bigger, it’s our 6week1day ultrasound, where we should get to see a teeny little heartbeat!

UPDATE: The u/s was good, still just one little blob in there, located in an appropriate spot. It measured 6w0d, with a margin of error of +/- 2 days, so a fraction behind but not alarmingly so. Heart rate was 117 bpm, also normal. The measurements give us an estimated due date of 9/10/2008.

I go in for one more u/s with the fancypants Reproductive Endocrinologists, a week from tomorrow. Then, if all is still well, they kick me out graduate me to the doctors who get the baby out.

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