Mon 9 Jun 2008
You Single Moms Blow My Mind
Posted by Liza under Personal, The Real Live Boy
Seriously. I have no idea how single moms manage it. Or single dads. Single parents of any stripe.
Jill was only gone for 4 days, AND Noah was in day care for two of them. But I still was at the end of my rope by the time she got back.
Some of our time was a lot of fun: we went to the playground early on Saturday morning, leaving before it hit 90 degrees around 10 am. There was some quality snuggling and cuddle time, and some great story reading.
But there was also the meltdown in the dinosaur museum, the one in which I had to physically carry Noah from inside the museum to our car at the far end of the parking lot. And by then, it was over 90. It hit 97 by the end of the day.
(Aside: It was 97. During the first full weekend of June. This is going to be a hideous summer. I’ve hit the giant and awkward stage of pregnancy and I have 3 more months of this to look forward to, in the worst weather of the year. And yes, I do feel whiny about it, thanks for asking.)
And there were the two bedtimes in which Noah got up every 5-10 minutes for an hour, variously claiming to have poopy diapers, a need for all of the puzzle pieces to be out of his room, for more water, for me to put his blanket over him and tuck in his feet, and to tell me what his trains were doing.
Go.To.Sleep!!!
I can also honestly say that I think this was the first time since Noah’s birth that I was able to follow the “sleep while the baby sleeps” advice you get when you have a newborn. He’s only 28 months old, so I’m not doing that badly, right?
Jill got home to find the house covered with toys. I tried to implement a bin-based storage system while she was gone, not realizing that to Noah, a bin full of toys was nothing more than an invitation to flip the bin over and spread the toys across the floor. Within 2 minutes of his getting up from his nap, 3 of the 5 bins had been flipped, and so had my lid. There was also a mysterious and unpleasant smell in the fridge, and I had not put away any of the clean laundry in the basket.
I promise, you couldn’t get a more sharp contrast between that and her parents’ house.




June 9th, 2008 at 8:15 pm
You are scaring me. Starting Wednesday I have 4 days alone with Alex.
Hold me.
(not that I cant handle my own son, but when you are used to having help.. you know. I agree with your statement about single parents, I am in awe of them.)
June 9th, 2008 at 9:50 pm
Ditto ditto and more ditto. I could not survive. And we would eat Wendy’s every night. Props to the pardners.
Good luck, Lizzie. You’ll do fine.
June 10th, 2008 at 8:30 am
I too have been innocently coaxed into the single motherhood ring, and I’m full agreement that when you try to do it this pregnant? Whew. I get Kevin home with us for an hour on Wednesdays, and then the weekends. But the whoooole rest of the week? All me from wake up time to well past bedtime. My house has indeed begun to look like a toy war zone, but I’m learning to accept it rather than find the energy to do anything about it. My question is, were you not totally out of breath by the time you carried him out of the museum? The carrying thing is getting tough.
June 10th, 2008 at 8:56 am
Heh. Molly, I was dripping with sweat, out of breath, my back hurt, and I was Mama Crankypants. The ONLY redeeming factor is that there was only one stair involved.
I don’t know how you do it.
June 10th, 2008 at 10:28 am
Ugh. Last week we had a day off because of power outages, and I took N to visit C at school, but first we went to Target. I thought, “I don’t need a stroller - it’s just one block.” Huuuuuuuuuuuuuuge mistake. I ended up carrying her most of the way there and back. It was miserable and it was only in the 80s that week.
As for the heat, you know I hear you. I may show up at work dressed in a bathing suit tomorrow — not really, but my sleeves get shorter every day. The only thing left is spaghetti strap tanks and I can’t go there, for so many reasons. Even though I got a couple in my handmedown mat wardrobe.
A bin system will work. It’s great. He just needs to have you work with him on it for a bit. And you do need to put pictures/labels on the bins, if you haven’t already. Makes all the difference in the world.
As for the solo-momship, I am glad you survived. We have yet to have either mom away more than 24 hours and that was only once, for a funeral.