I keep falling asleep. With Josie in my lap.

Usually not while Noah is awake, but sometimes during the window between dinner and bedtime.

I think it’s the prolactin. That’s the awesome hormone that makes you patient with newborns, relaxes your muscles, and gets triggered by babies nursing. (And apparently is also the hormone in men that makes them roll over and fall asleep after, ahem, getting busy. Allegedly. A factoid that might give you more understanding of just how tired I get.)

While it might also have the bonus of having helped keep my muscles nice and relaxed post car-accident, I would really like to be less sleepy.

 

For a perfect summary of the great fun stuff that Josie and I were up to in Palo Alto last week, please check out Cecily‘s post about how great the folks, bloggers and employees, at 23andMe were.

One of the things I enjoyed the most about the experience was the combination of how down to earth AND excited about their work that everyone we met was. We met some Silicon Valley VIPs while we were there, and in addition to talking about their work, they also wanted to talk about their kids, our kids, and the usual kinds of conversations that I have with other parents of babies and young children.

In fact, Josie has her first future boyfriend out of this trip. She charmed 23andMe founder Anne Wojcicki so much that Anne wants Josie to date her six week old son. If he is half as interesting and lovely as his mother, Josie has my blessing. (And if they get married one day, Anne and I will laugh our asses off about whatever name(s) they choose to use, as the first social conversation she and I had was over how crazy and difficult it is to decide how to name children and families, and all of the associated baggage.)

Meanwhile, back at the ranch, the insurance company declared my car a total loss. They haven’t yet translated that into financial terms, but we’re hoping they will by Tuesday or Wednesday.

Is there a car buyer web site that will let me make a chart and compare disparate data sources like Consumer Reports, the National Highway Safety rankings, features, mileage, and cost of different makes & models?

We are thinking new, probably 2008 model year, probably something in the inexpensive Toyota or Honda family. I really want a Prius, but we can’t justify the premium cost while both unemployed.

Last update: Jill headed home to Atlanta for the last time tonight. She’ll be wrapping up her work this week, and then heading to Orlando to work at the SuperBowl. On 2/3, she moves here permanently. (Yes, I know that the SuperBowl is in Tampa. But corporate sponsors will be in hotels all over the area. So no, she won’t actually be at the game.)

Noah was upset and cranky this evening after she left, as usual. But at least there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

 

It was COLD when we got home from sunny, beautiful Palo Alto!

And it was also 1:30 am. Or so.

The flight from San Francisco was so early that we couldn’t get a gate at Minneapolis/St Paul. Where it was so cold that the little plane tugging cars were skidding on the ice, so they had to run around with the big tuggers to move anyone. So we were on the ground for about 45 minutes before we could disembark.

Then we sprinted to the Milwaukee gate, me aided by 2 nice San Franciscans of midwestern origin. And another nice dad who had been sitting behind us who watched her while I peed.

 

That sprint turned out to be pointless, as we spent 1 hour and 50 minutes WHILE ONBOARD waiting for the 15 passengers from LAX to arrive.

The flight attendants ran out of water. I think I got the last 2 oz.

When we got off the plane, the loader/unloader dude who brought the stroller and carseat up clearly didn’t have kids and had a terrible time trying to unfold the stroller. While Josie screamed bloody murder in the unheated airway. When it was finally unfolded, I just threw the carseat on it and started racing up the airway. Naturally it fell off.

Josie was screaming.

I yelled “shit!” and almost started to cry.

And fortunately, the funny-face-making dad from the sfo-msp flight appeared and helped us get off the airway, organized, and to baggage claim.

Once things calmed down, we started chatting about why we were in San Fransisco, and he got all excited about 23andMe, and the idea that he could get genetic medical info for his kids. He also does some kind of genetic research and has had himself profiled.

 

Some of you know that I have long had something of an anti-California bias. I never understood why people wanted to live here.

That bias was mostly informed by Southern California, both as a media experience and to a lesser extent, by my personal experience. Like the time one of my colleagues and I went to an L-Word party in Hollywood while on a business trip, and found ourselves far and again the heaviest people in the bar.

My trips to Berkeley and San Francisco have been nicer than that, but I’ve never had that “oh man, I could totally live here” reaction that nearly everyone I know has had at some point.

Until this trip.

First of all, the weather has been perfect.

Then there was Palo Alto, which has a lovely little downtown that felt so safe that it felt silly listening to the limo driver reassuring me that it was safe.

And then there were the people. Everyone at 23andMe was friendly, adoring of Josie, and most interestingly, contagiously enthusiastic about their work. They had this intelligence and passion that I associate with newcomers to Washington DC, or people in the early days of the tech bubble. But they’re real adult professionals, not giddy 23 year olds.

And it wasn’t just 23andMe. We met people who owned or managed restaurants, worked in upscale spas, and worked at Google. They were all like that, both about their work and about life more generally. Did you know that the people who work at Google are so enthusiastic about eating healthy snacks that their cooking staff make their own agave-sweetened candy?

It was the first time I’ve ever been to California where I found myself wishing I didn’t have to leave — and not just because the temp in Milwaukee is -12.

I’m also super-excited to get the results back from my 23andMe DNA profile.

The team there did a fantastic job explaining genetics, risk factors, and the value of knowing your personal genetic risk factors. I’m still a little leery about the privacy and other public policy considerations around widespread genetic testing, but the company has put together a lot of good safeguards and is committed to giving consumers to tools to use, keep, or destroy their data as they see fit.

They also had all of us who will be working with them actually extract DNA! We extracted and examined the DNA of a strawberry, using only one item I don’t know for sure I have at home — cheesecloth. And I think bandage gauze would be an easy substitute, and one
I do have. If Noah were older, I’d try it with him when I get home. But I think it would be a better science project for an 8 or 9 year old at least.

My inner geek had SUCH a good time. I want to find work where I get to have that much fun on a regular basis, and where I get passionately excited about what I do.

 

Good morning!

Here we are in still-dark Palo Alto, at the charming Cardinal Hotel. Josie did extremely well with both of our flights yesterday, only melting down after long delays.

The only problem with the travelling part of the trip is that I forgot to pack Mommy snacks. I ate a PB&J with Noah around 6 am, and opted for peeing over getting food between flights at the Detroit airport.

Once we were on the plane, I told the flight attendant that I would give my right arm to participate in any option available to buy food. She promised to come back and wake me up if necessary.

Lucky for me, the extremely nice other passenger in my row, Rabbi Nat, offered me half of his tuna sandwich. The flight attendant didn’t come back with food for well over an hour. I bought fruit & cheese, and M&Ms.

Josie got to occupy the middle seat for part of the flight in her “baby box” aka collapsable baby bed. She thought that sitting in a box in an airplane next to a friendly and progressive Conservative Rabbi would be a good time to try to roll over for the first time, but sadly she didn’t quite make it. Rabbi Nat did, however, snap a picture of Josie finding her foot for the first time!

She did have an explosive poopy diaper about 10 minutes before we landed, which caused us to be very late in collecting our bags and finding the car service. However, our driver was a Fon du Lac, Wisconsin native — and that fact was pretty much obvious the moment Limo Driver Nick opened his mouth. He was a fun tour guide, pointing out deer, mountains, and other sights as we drove. We also had fun sharing driving war stories.

There’s still the awesome swag and dinner and the wonderful other bloggers and 23andMe folks to appreciate, but Josie just woke up and I’m starving, so I’ll have to update later.

 

No, not another unexpected big expense.

I’m going to be even harder to reach and probably less online than I have been — tomorrow, Josie and I are going on a whirlwind trip to the Bay Area!

I wasn’t supposed to blog about it before now, but I can now reveal to you that I am going to be a paid, yes PAID blogger for the very interesting and nice people at 23andMe.  I spat into a tube for them; you may have read about them as the Invention of the Year for 2008, according to TIME Magazine!
More details will follow.

Josie and I will only be in Palo Alto from tomorrow late afternoon until Friday afternoon. While there are several of you I would love love love to see, this is the first moment I’ve even thought about that fact. I have gotten such inadequate sleep over the last 6 weeks that I practically qualify for the sleep deprivation psychosis that was a plot point on Law & Order while I was packing this evening. My point is that as much as I would love to see/meet you, I’m going to be trying to convince Josie to sleep when I’m doing anything else other than Official Business.

Speaking of sleep, the cab will be here in less than 6 hours.

 

Dear Noah,

In exactly one month, you will be three years old.

This month has continued to keep your life off balance. We’re settling into the new house, which you insist on calling “our NEW house” if someone calls it “our house.” You still coo at and love on Josie, usually in 20-30 second bursts of interest.

The two of you are going to a local day care 3 days per week, which seems to be making you insane. Every morning that I tell you, “Today is a Miss Mary’s school day,” you cry and scream and declare that you don’t like morning time. Of course, the minute we get there, you run off to play, and you don’t want to leave in the evening.

I think you don’t like the uneven routine.

Lucky for all of us, the opportunity unexpectedly arose for that to change. Beginning a week from Tuesday, you will begin a full-time (8 am – 3 pm) Montessori program. The plan is to have you there through kindergarten, which gives us more than 3 years in one place — a place I think you will love.

Yesterday, I was in a car accident in “R Car” or “My friend R Car” as you liked to call it. I don’t know right now whether or not R Car will be repaired or declared a total loss. The rental we are using is black, smallish, and new, so I told you it was an Acura Racecar, like one of your current favorite toys.

I wasn’t trying to lie; I couldn’t remember what kind of car it was, and I thought it might be an Acura. You have to ask This Mommy those car questions. (It’s a Mazda of some kind.)
You keep becoming more articulate, taller, and more fun (most of the time). You memorize books as we read them to you, quote (and misquote) long sections of movie dialog, and amusingly mimic everything you hear. I wish I could capture and remember all the funny and charming things you say.

Your favorite foods du jour are peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, apples, oatmeal with raisins and sugar, apple juice, cheese, chocolate ice cream, chocolate chip cookies, meat, and cucumbers. We have no idea where the last one came from, but I’m happy to buy them and feed them to you. Frequently, you will reject anything else, and easily declare segments of food “yucky things” and demand their immediate removal. I mean things like the oregano and basil on pizza.

You’ve also become very sweet and affectionate this month, which is lovely. Thank you.

We love you very, very much.

That Mommy

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