We are not the super-elaborate birthday party types. Our own wedding was a modest affair on a tight budget — nice, fun, and reflective of us, but far from the biggest most elaborate event you’ve attended. We have the same approach to kids’ birthday parties.

This year, we elected to have it not at our house, so we wouldn’t have to deal with all the associated cleaning. Noah picked a cake from the catalog at the grocery store (a transforming truck with flames), and we took it to his new favorite museum: Discovery World, aka “the gear museum.”

When I called, they said that their birthday party room was already booked, but we could set up at some of the tables in the hallway if we were interested. I thought that was fine, picturing an area somewhat out of the way. We’d stopped for snacks near there on our previous visits.

When we actually arrived, we got a little bit nervous. The receptionist, whose customer service skills had previously underwhelmed us, directed us to the party room we’d been told was unavailable. When we mentioned that, he merely told us that someone would meet us where we’d been told to go, then.

We went to set up a couple of the tables in the hallway — only to find that all of them were configured in a completely new location, not at all out of the way. Bummer, but we’ll live.

We began setting up, and were found by one of the event staff, who offered to get us a more appropriate table. Jill agreed, while Noah and I were looking at the fish. When I saw the guy moving the table, I asked if it could be set up in the less busy segment of the hallway, and he agreed.

Unbeknownst to us, Event Guy very helpfully went to work to find us an actual room to have our party. Unfortunately, that location kept changing. Ultimately, though, we ended up in absolutely positively the most beautiful location in the entire building.

If I were planning a wedding in Milwaukee, I’d want it in the room where we had Noah’s birthday party. (This is the best picture I could find — we had basically the top floor of that round space.) The kids had a great time running around the room, the dance floor, and the risers set up for an evening event.

After cake and presents, everyone went to wander the museum at their own pace. And by everyone, I mean the 4 families with kids close to Noah’s age who joined us. We felt like we needed to keep it small, both finanically, and so as not to overwhelm Noah or anyone else. I think it was the right size group — more adults and Noah would have had an attack of the shys and spent half the party crawling up the back of my leg.

Noah and Jill got to go enjoy the gear exhibit, while Josie and I sat and hung out with a few of the guests who wanted a more substantive lunch from the museum cafe. Josie discovered that she likes beards. (A fact she confirmed the next day, when we went to half of a Milwaukee Wave game with yet another family with a bearded Daddy.)

The only downside of the day was that Noah loved all of his new race cars and other toys so much that he stayed awake, playing with them in his room, until 10:30 pm. He only slept in an extra maybe 15 minutes, so he was a tired and cranky boy for much of Sunday. At least until he fell asleep in the car on the way home from the Wave game. He was so tired that he didn’t even wake up when I carried him in from the car — a lovely experience that we haven’t had since he was a very young toddler.

 

I don’t seem to be very good at posting about my travels with Josie. Hrm, wonder why?

We had a wonderful long weekend last weekend!

First, we spent the day with This Grandma and This Grandpa. They charmed Josie and vice versa:
Happy Chatty Girl with Grandpa Grandma & Josie 2

Then we went to a pizza party full of Internet friends, most of whom we’ve known since I was pregnant with Noah. The density of approximately 3 year old children was a little bit overwhelming. There were moments of really wishing I’d brought Noah, too, but that would only have worked with two parents also traveling. And poor Jill was sick of being away from home.

Josie had fun at the pizza party, especially meeting and being, er, manhandled, by Teddy.

Teddy is a week younger than Josie, and his big sister Natalie is 2 months younger than Noah. As a result, Teddy wears all of Noah’s seasonally appropriate outgrown clothing, and Josie does the same with Natalie’s.

Teddy and Josie both enjoyed Joshua and Xander, too:

Finally, we went over to Amanda’s house, where her parents Aleck and Stacey graciously invited us to stay and treat the house like a hotel.

ASIDE: That reminds me, the car I pricelined to rent for the weekend was supposed to have been a teeny little economy car. The computer “upgraded” me — and only a mom traveling with young carseat-needing children would have been upset by the upgrade. I was in a Mustang, and could barely wrestle Josie’s carseat into the back. Mercifully, my hosts loaned me their RAV-4 for the rest of the weekend.

Amanda is a whirling dervish of a charming 2.5 year old, articulate and beautiful. She can really only be captured on video — my camera only caught her in full motion blur:

Speaking of dervishes, Herself has woken up and requires attention.

 

Dear Noah,

Today you are 3 years old!

It seems so strange to think of it. Three years ago right now, This Mommy and I were hanging out in a hospital room, wondering when you would decide to come out of my belly and join us in the world. We couldn’t wait to meet you! Instead, we were stuck waiting and watching Wedding Crashers and Must Love Dogs on DVD, hoping that I would get into active labor soon! It had already been 29 hours since my water broke!

You were unsure about coming out — maybe exhibiting the earliest signs of the shyness you still show around strange adults. (Maybe you were waiting for our favorite midwife, who had just come back on duty, replacing our least favorite one who had been there during the night.) In fact, 35 hours after my water broke, the midwife and doctor went in to get you.

Back then, you were a big healthy baby, 9 lbs, 7 oz, and 21.5 inches long. You were a great eater, and a great cuddler, but you didn’t do much else.

Now you are a big healthy boy, 38 lbs, and 38 inches tall, and it seems like you never stop moving and talking. There is almost nothing you can’t do!

You love to run, jump, bounce, dance, throw, and climb. In certain moods, you also love to help your mommies, and to snuggle, read, draw, and play pretend. In the last few days, we’ve been pretend dinosaurs, gorillas, race car drivers, and you’ve been a pretend baby — both with baby Josie, and pretending that she is your big sister.

There is nothing in the family of “race car” toys that you don’t love. You spend hours lining them up, racing them around, and conducting elaborate games among the “race cars” and the “slowpokes.”

You’ve also become immensely competitive. You like to go first, be the leader, go the fastest, and most of all, to win. It doesn’t matter whether the activity is running or racing cars, or brushing your teeth, eating breakfast, or getting in the car. Sometimes the only way to spur you into an activity you would prefer not to do, like brushing your teeth, is to threaten to do it faster/better/farther.

We also love to watch you in action as a big brother. You love to kiss and hug “Miss Goo” and to hand her toys. When she cries, you always tell her sweetly, “It’s ok, baby Josie, it’s ok,” or you echo my, “I know, sweetheart, I know.” You advise us on what she wants and how to help her, and you often ask if you can play with her. (Usually yes, unless she is either eating or sleeping.)

Josie, in turn, loves to watch you and talk to you. She laughs and babbles when you pay attention to her and let her touch your face and hair.

You still have your challenging moments, getting angry and either hitting or kicking, or even head-butting. Sometimes you engage in passive resistance, curling up in a ball and insisting that you don’t want to do whatever we’re doing or go wherever we’re going.

But no matter whether you are being charming, sweet, and helpful, or stubborn, cranky, and screaming, we love you more than we could ever have imagined. You are and will always be my favorite boy in the whole wide world.

I love you.

That Mommy

 

Having now completed this solo parenting gig, I’m trying to take inventory of the experience.

The facts: With help and support from my family and friends, and with visits from Jill, I was the primary parent for 10 weeks and 3 days (November 22 – February 3). And the solo parent for probably ~8 weeks of that time.

The benefits and other things I have learned:

  • I now know that there is nothing I can’t handle. There may be a lot of things I don’t WANT to handle, or would hate handling, but there is nothing that I CAN’T handle.
  • One is approximately 1/8th as difficult as two. At least by yourself.
  • Babies are way easier than toddlers. At least in the stage where they can’t move by themselves.
  • I feel like I really know both kids.
  • I am bad at doing dishes. (To all my ex-roommates whom I blamed for being poor dishwashers, I apologize! Apparently it was my fault after all.)
  • I am good at creating a routine.
  • That unknown font of patience that I discovered I had when Noah was an infant is not limitless. Noah also found the boundaries.
  • There is no good answer to the question of whether to bring Almost 3 or Infant to/from the freezing car/the house first, when carting both at the same time is impossible. Mostly Noah got to go first because he’s in an obsessively competitive phase just now.
  • I don’t like living in drafty, cold, old houses.
  • I think I’m too old for living in a duplex, or any other permanent shared space arrangement. Especially if the other people are incense people. (I know it could be worse. That’s not the point.)
  • I don’t like people messing with my stuff. Even when my stuff is a mess.
 

Jill got back from the SuperBowl yesterday! She lives here now!

Already the house is cleaner, Noah is happier and hyper-er and even more of a giddy and adoring big brother. I’m calmer although also feeling more tired — more like allowing the tired to hit than actually more tired, I suspect. And Josie is enjoying that she has a larger adoring entourage.

I’m working on a post about the many things I learned solo-momming it.

And now I’m going to go to sleep.

 

Dear Josie,

On Friday, you turned 5 months old.

This is my favorite phase of babyhood: you are alert, interactive, smiley, chatty, and beautiful. And yet, you can’t move much — you sort-of pivot when you’re trying to roll over, but that’s it.

You regularly beam at me, at Noah, and at any friendly person who happens to smile at you. You coo and laugh when we tickle you, chat with you, or even just pick you up.

You especially seem to love looking at Noah, watching him run around, play, and talk with you.

My only complaint is your sleeping. You’ve slept through the night, 3 times so far. Unfortunately, for most of the last few weeks you’ve woken up 2 or 3 times per night. Already tonight you don’t seem able to fall asleep, after 3 tries in 1.5 hours.

(Continued, 27 minutes later, after another attempt to get you to fall and stay asleep.)

You are on the verge of rolling over, and you keep waking yourself up with both legs sticking straight up in the air, desparate to practice this new almost-skill. You’ll be there shortly, I promise.

You are so dearly loved. Never forget it, my dear.

love,

That Mommy

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